by: Rebecca Knight
Dismissing an employee is one of the most unpleasant tasks of management. It’s likely to evoke a lot of mixed feelings: sympathy, sadness, and anxiety. Even if letting go of the employee (or employees) is in the best interest of the company, you still may feel guilty. What’s the best way to deliver the news? How do you strike the balance of being direct and compassionate? How much should you let your emotions show?
What the Experts Say
Presiding over layoffs is a “distasteful part of management that many people fear,” says Laurence J. Stybel, a career management and board adviser and an executive in residence at Suffolk University’s Sawyer Business School. It’s also a thankless task. “Nobody ever got promoted because they fire well. But your career can get sidetracked if you don’t treat people in a dignified way.” All of your employees and customers are going to be watching how you handle the process. “The way you fire people needs to reflect the words you have in your mission statement.” Dismissing an employee or group of employees is particularly hard when you disagree with the decision, says Andy Molinsky, professor of organizational behavior at Brandeis University International Business School. “You’ll feel conflicted, discouraged, and frustrated.” Still, as a manager you may have to do what’s best for the company. Here’s how to manage the process in a way that is clear and respectful, whether you’re terminating a single person or letting go of an entire team.
Seek training
All organizations need an “effective, efficient, and standardized process” for handling layoffs “and everyone — managers and potential managers — should be trained in how to do it,” according to Stybel. “Training makes it a less frightening task,” he adds. Trouble is, says Molinsky, most organizations don’t “necessarily see the need to offer extensive training because it costs time and money and layoffs are a relatively infrequent occurrence.” This, he says, is an oversight. Companies that do layoffs poorly “suffer tremendous consequences,” including wrongful termination lawsuits and dents to their reputation. “It’s a no-brainer to invest resources in doing this well,” he says. If your company doesn’t offer training, Molinsky suggests seeking advice and guidance from mentors who have first-hand experience with laying off employees.
Practice
Don’t go into this task cold — and certainly don’t go in alone, says Stybel. It’s more comfortable and legally practical to deliver this news with at least one other person in the room. “Ideally you’re working closely with a consultant at an outplacement firm to help you manage the process,” he says. If not, enlist someone from HR. As you practice what you plan to say, role-play how the employee may react. “During the trial run, anticipate worst-case scenarios,” he says. “The person might cry. The person might invoke their family with something like: ‘My daughter is going to college in the fall, how will I be able to pay for it now?’ You need to consider how you will manage your emotions” in these situations. You should have a script, but try not to rely too heavily on it, warns Molinsky. “The danger of a script is that you become too mechanical and detach yourself so much that you fail to show interpersonal sensitivity,” he says. “At the same time, you don’t want to be so moved by efforts to show sympathy that you don’t deliver the message.” Practicing beforehand helps ensure you “strike the right balance.”
Consider logistics
The physical environment in which you deliver the news should be a private, quiet room or office, Molinsky says. Have a box of tissues at the ready. The goal is to “maximize your comfort in delivering the message” while also granting “dignity to the person who’s being laid off.” Your safety is another consideration. “Oftentimes the reaction of the person is shock or sadness, but the person could get angry.” In light of this, Stybel recommends you “make sure that the person has direct access to the door in case he gets emotional” and needs to leave. “Make it easy for the person to storm out,” he says. While there is “no right time of day” to tell someone he no longer has a job — frankly, they’re all terrible, “try to do it on Friday because it gives the person the weekend to deal with it,” he says. “If you do it on Monday, everyone will be talking about it for the rest of the week.” And if you’re shutting down an entire division, it might be better to announce the layoff to everyone at once, according to Molinsky, “since they’re all suffering the same fate.”
Be direct
The script for letting an employee go is relatively straightforward, says Molinsky. “Get to the point quickly: Be direct, be honest, and no small talk.” Stybel recommends beginning the conversation by saying: “‘I have some bad news to deliver today’ because it emotionally prepares the individual. It’s equivalent to saying: ‘I’m about to punch you in the stomach’ versus just punching you in the stomach,” he says. Then say something like: “The purpose of this meeting is to tell you that your career with this company has come to an end.” Next, give the person a folder containing the severance arrangements. If your company is providing outplacement services, then say: “As part of the respect we have for you, we have hired a firm to help you successfully land on your feet.” Then hand over the meeting to the consultant or HR rep who will explain next steps. “It doesn’t need to be long and drawn out,” Stybel says. “Say what you need to say, then leave the room. The outplacement firm should take over.”
Don’t get sidetracked
As the person who’s losing her job absorbs what’s happening, she might react emotionally. She might get teary; she might lash out; she might have questions. But you, the manager, must not respond. “You don’t want the conversation to devolve into a debate, discussion, or argument,” says Molinsky. Don’t bring up the employee’s poor performance or the fact that she had been warned. Instead, Stybel suggests saying: “If you wish to discuss the justice of this decision, I will be glad to set up an appointment with you next week — this is not the time,” adding that he’s never “had a situation where a fired employee asked for a follow-up appointment.”
Be compassionate
When you’ve been tasked with laying off an employee with whom you have a good working relationship, “it’s likely you’ll feel genuine, deep sympathy” for that person, says Molinsky. In cases like these, “offer support” by, say, assuring him you’ll give a great reference or offering to introduce your contacts. This is certainly not something you’d do for everyone, but if your relationship warrants it and it “feels natural,” it’s the kind thing to do. Most important, never talk about how difficult this decision has been for you. “That is irrelevant,” Stybel says. “The employee doesn’t care about your feelings right now.”
Decompress and debrief
Letting go of an employee is a demanding task that “takes a toll” on even the most experienced managers, says Stybel. Don’t neglect your own wellbeing. “Once you’ve delivered the news, find a way to physically and psychologically restore yourself,” he says. Take a walk. Take a nap. Lift weights. “Whatever you do, don’t schedule another meeting right after — give yourself time to calm down.” It’s also “important to debrief,” with the HR manager that helped you do the layoff, says Molinsky. Together you can “reflect on how it went and what you might have done differently,” he says. There is usually room for improvement. “It’s an emotional moment, but at the same time, it’s a task and it’s a skill. You can get better at this.”
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